Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed (Hardcover)
April 2019 Indie Next List
“I was thinking maybe I should talk to someone, and then there was this book. Gottlieb has written a compassionate and entertaining memoir from both sides of the couch, so to speak. She tells the stories of four patients whose lives the reader comes to care deeply about while she herself goes into therapy. Physician, heal thyself? No. Human being, be honest with thyself and do something really difficult. Gottlieb is as fine a writer as she is a storyteller. I was sad our sessions had to end.”
— Stan Hynds, Northshire Saratoga, Saratoga Springs, NY
Now being developed as a television series with Eva Longoria and ABC!
“Rarely have I read a book that challenged me to see myself in an entirely new light, and was at the same time laugh-out-loud funny and utterly absorbing.”—Katie Couric
“This is a daring, delightful, and transformative book.”—Arianna Huffington, Founder, Huffington Post and Founder & CEO, Thrive Global
“Wise, warm, smart, and funny. You must read this book.”—Susan Cain, New York Times best-selling author of Quiet
From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist’s world—where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she).
One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.
As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients’ lives — a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can’t stop hooking up with the wrong guys — she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell.
With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.
*INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER!* *An O, The Oprah Magazine’s Best Nonfiction Book of the Year* *A TIME magazine Must-Read Book of the Year* *An NPR Favorite Book of the Year* *An Amazon 10 Best Books of the Year* *A People Magazine Book of the Week* *A New York Times Editors' Choice* *A Real Simple Book of the Year* *A Chicago Tribune Best Book of the Year* *A Variety Best Book of the Year* *A Kirkus, ShelfAwareness, and Bookpage Best Book of the Year* *An IndieNext Pick* *A Book of the Month Club Extra* *An Amazon Best Book of the Month and Books with Buzz Pick* *A Publishers Marketplace Buzz Book* *A Newsday, iBooks, Washington Post, Real Simple, Thrive Global, Refinery29, and Book Riot Most Anticipated Book of the Year* "An addictive book that's part Oliver Sacks and part Nora Ephron. Prepare to be riveted." —People Magazine, Book of the Week "Entirely reframes the way we think about psychotherapy [. . .] Movingly depicts our collective longing for lasting connection." —Entertainment Weekly “Gottlieb’s book is perhaps the first I’ve read that explains the therapeutic process in no-nonsense terms while simultaneously giving hope to therapy skeptics like me who think real change through talk is elusive.” —Judith Newman, New York Times "A psychotherapist and advice columnist at The Atlantic shows us what it’s like to be on both sides of the couch with doses of heartwarming humor and invaluable, tell-it-like-it-is wisdom." —O, The Oprah Magazine “Authentic . . . raw . . . an irresistibly candid and addicting memoir about psychotherapeutic practice as experienced by both the clinician and the patient.” —New York Times "Provocative and entertaining . . . Gottlieb gives us more than a voyeuristic look at other people's problems (including her own). She shows us the value of therapy." —Washington Post "A delightful, fascinating dive into human behavior and idiosyncrasies, habits and defenses, fears and blind spots: hers, her patients’, yours and mine." —Chicago Tribune "This relatable memoir reminds us that many of our struggles are universal and just plain human." —Real Simple "[In the end, Gottlieb and her patients] are more aware—of themselves as people, of the choices they’ve made, and of the choices they could go on to make . . . It’s exploration—genuinely wanting to learn answers to the question Why am I like this?, so that maybe, through better understanding of what you’re doing, you figure out how to be who you want to become." —Slate “A no-holds-barred look at how therapy works.” —Parade "Who could resist watching a therapist grapple with the same questions her patients have been asking her for years? Gottlieb, who writes the Atlantic’s “Dear Therapist” column, brings searing honesty to her search for answers." —Washington Post “Reading it is like one long therapy session—and may be the gentle nudge you need to start seeing a therapist again IRL.” —Hello Giggles “In her memoir, bestselling author, columnist, and therapist Lori Gottl —